Category: Love

How To Take Your Life Back From People Who Ask for Too Much

How To Take Your Life Back From People Who Ask for Too Much

Say no

“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority.” ~Mandy Hale

It sucks, doesn’t it?

People who ask too much of you?

People who steal your time and drain your energy.…

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If Self-Love Seems Difficult, Start with Self-Like

If Self-Love Seems Difficult, Start with Self-Like

“It’s not your job to like me. It’s mine.” ~Byron Katie

Self-love is a word that gets used a lot. Overused, in fact.

The pressures and associations around the phrase “self-love” are immense. At school, we actually tore apart girls …

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Appreciate Yourself: 9 Reminders to Love Yourself

Appreciate Yourself: 9 Reminders to Love Yourself

“Beauty is when you can appreciate yourself. When you love yourself, that’s when you’re most beautiful.” ~ Zoe Kravitz Did you grow up in a household that hurt you and punished you as you grew up? Were your feelings tossed aside? Your confidence shattered? Your self-worth destroyed? Were you put down, beaten down with negativity […]

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3 Ways to Tell If You’re in an Unhealthy Relationship

3 Ways to Tell If You’re in an Unhealthy Relationship

Broken Heart

“The harder you fight to hold onto specific assumptions, the more likely there’s gold in letting them go.” ~John Seely Brown

It was Christmas night and I was ecstatic. He would be there any minute.

I touched up my gloss …

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Why Self-Help Shouldn’t Be About Trying to “Fix” Yourself

Why Self-Help Shouldn’t Be About Trying to “Fix” Yourself

Not Broken

“Stop trying to ‘fix’ yourself; you’re not broken! You are perfectly imperfect and powerful beyond measure.” ~Steve Maraboli

The other day I had some time to kill before a meeting, so I decided to go to one of my favorite …

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Letters from Your Soul: On Loving Your Pain Away

Letters from Your Soul: On Loving Your Pain Away

Dear one, You were raised to believe that pain is something you need to run away from, something you should avoid and be ashamed of. But I tell you that pain, just like all the other positive and blissful emotions that you are so found of, needs to be felt. It demands to be felt! […]

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Overcoming Codependency: Breaking the Cycle of Unhealthy Relationships

Overcoming Codependency: Breaking the Cycle of Unhealthy Relationships

Couple holding hands

“A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior.” ~Melody Beattie

From a young age, I felt insecure in my own skin. I was a …

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Why It Takes Strength to Be Vulnerable, and Why It’s Worth It

Why It Takes Strength to Be Vulnerable, and Why It’s Worth It

Woman with heart

“Vulnerability is our most accurate measure of courage.” ~Brené Brown

When we’re younger, we’re fearless. We don’t mind climbing trees, making friends with strangers, or telling our secrets to people we’ve just met. We open our eyes and hearts to …

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6 Reasons Why Being Alone Is Much Better Than Being with a Person Who Doesn’t Deserve You

There are many reasons why being alone is much better than being with the wrong person. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who doesn’t deserve you? I have and I know what it feels like. Being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t treat you like a loving partner would treat you, […]

6 Ways Heartache Pain and Loss Can Make You Better

6 Ways Heartache Pain and Loss Can Make You Better

Not long ago my Mom passed.  Unexpectedly, 2 short weeks later,  my younger brother joined her.  Bereft,  I was suddenly adrift, my moorings gone.  How to belong in a world with mother and brother sized holes?  Sleepless, I walked, and walked. Or, crashed for 8, 10, 12 hours. Grief morphed into guilt, anger, cynicism, bewilderment. Socially inept, I lay low.  In my brother’s flannel shirt, I curled under Mom’s soft brown throw and convulsed with tears.  Each salt trail marked a sacred path, a new road named “Goodbye.” Buy an “Intelligence is sexy” t-shirt! I moved furniture, rearranged with neurotic

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Cutting the Spiritual Energy Cord – Relationship Releases

In all relationships, there’s the physical, the mental aspects and the spiritual side of things. No matter what kind of relationship in your life, all three (physical, mental, and spiritual) are always present. A person, who’s left your life, has started this three stage process.
These stages are crucial for you to; move on, let go, not get hurt, prevent you from being hurt further, or just a way to break free of the strangle hold they have on you.
It is scientifically proven that energy bonds are made in all relationships. This relieves all the nay-sayers who don’t think this stuff exists. Please do your research, before you brush this topic off as false.
When you’re emotionally connected and investing in someone, all of your energies combine. Depending on the level of the relationship, this bond can be extremely strong and stay with you for your entire life.

The key to breaking the bond between you both is to follow these steps:

1) Physical:

The physical break is the easiest to do. By simply not seeing each other breaks this tie together and prevents new types of energy sharing between the two of you (above and beyond already transferred and shared).
Other connections also affect this stage, for example, if you just broke up with your ex, the friendships you made together can go both ways. Some may be on your side, others might not. Determining which ones to trust is very tricky and very important not to cause drama. The best thing for you is to only speak to your most trusted friend. The less people involved in your recovery, the less drama it will cause.

 

2) Mental:


The mental game is a hard one to let go, I wrote an article that will help you with this stage titled: “Emotional Release, Things to Expect.” Please read this article once you’ve finished cutting the cord. Even after you cut the cord, it still takes effort to break or “release” the mental, emotional bond that the heart needs to take time to mend.
3) Spiritual:
Surprisingly this stage can be the easiest and most effective to help with the release process. Each time you make a connection with someone, there’s an exchange of the spirit, the energy bond. This bond is a two-way stream of; giving and receiving energy.
3.1) Abusive Relationships – Spiritual Attack of the Soul:
In most abusive relationships, this energy bond is destructive to the person on the receiving end because the energy flow is mainly a one way street. The “abuser” is not only draining you of energy, but sending you negative energy to break down your spirit. This process empowers the abuser and weakens the abused.
An abusive relationship MUST be cut from the spiritual side, a person who has done you harm; physically, mentally, and spiritually can continue to attack you long after they are gone. I’ve seen this 1st hand what affects this has on a person’s psyche.
I’m sure for some of you, the statement from above just hit home. Many of you have probably wondered why your abuser has been in your thoughts, feelings, and nightmares. They still have a bond with you, even after they are gone. That is why it’s so imperative that you cut this nasty cord for good.
3.2) Family, Friends, & Normal Relationships – Negative Energy Takers:
In every person’s journey, at one point or another we all come across a family member or friend we must let go of, for all sorts of reasons. Naming those reasons isn’t really relevant, but the process is just as hard as letting go of an abusive relationship.
Although it might be a lot harder to cut the spiritual cord consciously, it’s necessary to help mend your mind and soul, which also helps to build a new bond, a fresh start later on when you’re ready.
Cutting the spiritual cord doesn’t mean it cannot be re-attached, in fact, sometimes cutting the cord allows two people to start fresh, start over and helps one or the other to finally see things clearly.
Now that we’ve cleared up the “what” this cord does and means, let’s get onto the “how” to.

HOW TO CUT THE SPIRITUAL CORD – STEP PROCESS:

A) Must be done out of love, no exceptions. Cutting the cord out of hate might help to only strengthen it, giving you a false representation of what’s actually being done. Remember you’re doing this out of love for; yourself and the other to move on safely.
B) When cutting the cord, make sure you’re in your most calming, relaxed space, the one place you can go to unwind and be alone for a few minutes. A certain room, outside near a tree, a park, your car, or even your bathroom if you have to.
C) It takes a certain amount of visualization for this process. I like to meditate for a few minutes to calm the mind and help prepare my spiritual shield and energy. If you have problems visualizing in your mind, get a photo of the person to help enhance your connection.
D) Now visualize an energy cord that connects from you to the other person. In most cases, it’s tied to your belly like an umbilical cord, but NOT always, so make sure you see where the cord is attached to. Some people might have it connected to; the mind, the heart, the belly, or other. If you cannot see where it’s attached, imagine then – that’s it’s attached to your belly.
E) While visualizing, you must remember to do this out of love. See the person about 5-9 feet in front of you, the cord is attached to the same place for both of you, now visualize a sharp object and slice through the energy cord. Do this three separate times; see the cord again and again cutting the cord.
F) For the last time you see the cord, imagine your heart sending a pink energy to the other person’s cut end and send the pink love energy to the tip of their cord to close and mend it.
G) Once complete, look at the person and see them leaving the room (KEY). Our souls can hang on without the cord, especially in long-term relationships that have gone through a great deal.
H) Make sure the person leaves the room, you might have to mentally force them to leave, even ask them to please leave.
I) Once the person has left, imagine the sun sending you a colourful energy beam to your heart which will mend your heart, don’t stop there if possible, imagine the sun beam to engulf your entire body, physically turn your head towards the sun to take it on directly.
J) Smile before opening your eyes as to say goodbye to that person and slowly open your eyes.
It’s not uncommon to have a sudden rush of emotions after this process, please let the emotions run through you, do not block them. Those emotions are all the emotions the two of you had connected with each other. If you feel like crying, do not stop. If you feel rage, yell at the wall as loud as you can to let it all out.
Make sure to re-hydrate your energy afterwards, drink an entire freezing cold glass of water. Water is the best conduit for your body’s energy flow (proven fact). This process can be draining and it’s important to drink lots of water, listen to your body. If you’re hungry, eat something healthy and satisfying.
You’ve now learned the process to cut the spiritual cord with a person to truly let them go out of your life, OR to re-build a new cord to help a fresh new journey together.
I wish you all the best!
Namaste!

Martin R. Lemieux

You either choose to help others, or you don’t choose to help others… THERE IS NO IN-BETWEEN!

I want to tell you a PROFOUND STORY that I’ve barely told anyone. Many years back in Hamilton, ON – the place I reside in. Each year they hold a gathering festival at the pier. Every year there’s; booths, food, trinkets and live music.

This one year after hearing a great Canadian band called “The Tea Party”, I was walking with some friends down the grass hill when I saw a large group of strangers hovering over something happening.

My curiosity got the best of me, so I too like many others hurried to see what all the commotion was all about, come to find out that people were watching 6 guys absolutely pound on some young teenager on the ground that you couldn’t even recognize anymore.

The Lion in my instantaneously yelled “hey, what in the world are you doing!” and ran up to those individuals harming the teenager and one by one started throwing them off him.

I didn’t care to be a hero, I wasn’t scared for my life since they could have turned onto me next, but it was the right thing to do.

Once they all cleared in a hurry, I knelt down and seeing this poor kids face, hardly could recognize what he looked at, I placed my hands on his face to stop the bleeding and kept saying to him, “It’s going to be alright, you’re going to be just fine. Listen to my voice; you’re going to be just fine.”

The paramedics showed up and said “weren’t you afraid of getting hurt?”, “I said no!”, then they said “What about diseases like AIDS touching his blood”, I replied, “If saving a man’s life has consequences, then so be it, I’m ready to deal with those consequences”.

The hardest part for me was that when I got up, I saw a man with his 7-9 year old child watching the whole thing happen.

I immediately went to the man and said, “Is this what you’re trying to teach your son? To just stand there and watch?”… The man replied “what is it to you?”… “I held up my bloody hands and started veering towards his son, not to hurt him, but so that he understood that this was wrong, someone just got hurt”… The man quickly felt fear in his eyes and understood my message and turned the other way to leave without saying a word.

In life, when presented with moments like these, you have two choices, you can either watch someone get hurt, or you can be the better person and help others so they don’t get hurt.

It’s your choice!

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Namaste
Martin R. Lemieux

Be careful with Love

Nobody warned me I had no idea. Nobody ever told me to be careful. It seemed innocent enough, to just dabble with Love. What could...

Human Relationship Paradigm Shift – My Profound Experience!!!

What I’m about to share with you is something so profound, even I’m still trying to figure out how to describe what I; felt, saw, experienced, and what it will do for mankind as we know it. Human experience is everything, aside from experiencing life, human relationships amongst one another is so profound, it will literally shapes who you are, which also shapes who you become as a person later in life, and the choices you make in your existence.

The other night as I sat here, speaking to friends and people online, I had an experience which has ultimately changed the way I looked at human relationships forever, but the kicker is that this experience was literally shared with millions of other people at the very same time.

For the skeptics out there, this is your opportunity to leave and find someone else to bother, since that’s what you do best. Thanks for coming, see you never. Now that I got that out, how about we get into what actually happened…

The Emotional Weight – The Unbearable Truth:

As I sat here, I had just finished helping someone counseling them with their marriage, when it started to hit me. My body started to warm up like a tea kettle, I was dripping with sweat within minutes. No, this wasn’t a panic attack, trust me I know the difference. Every possible human emotion one can have was suddenly filling my heart. The weight of this sensation was so euphoric, I barely have words to describe it. I will do my best to try to detail that moment in time, so that others can understand the changes within all us.

I now realize this rush of emotions was a taste to sample each emotion one at a time, but also, all together at once. This moment I was having was to ensure that if at that point in life, I hadn’t felt one or two of any human emotion available to us, I was going to sense it now and with conviction. Most of the emotions I experienced were very familiar, but some others, well I must say, I had never felt that before. I guess in each of our lifetimes, we as humans get the chance to experience probably around 85/100 of all emotions possible, but there are still those few that elude us. Not because we cannot feel them, but because we haven’t had the chance to be within that situation which triggers it within us.

But for me, in one small moment in life, I had the chance to experience every single thing any person has ever experienced as an emotion. If you’re thinking to yourself, “wow – that would be something”, you’re right it was and trust me when I tell you, it has been increasingly harder to even describe to you what it felt like, as you can just imagine.

The one thing that really caught me as strange is that each emotion I had experienced, it was connected to an emotion with another human being. That one thought changed my perspective about human emotions forever.  I mean when you think about it, our experiences in one given day is beyond this world, we think about 1000’s of thoughts a day, most of which are the same that we entertained from the previous day. But for emotions, these unique life experiences are something else entirely, they’re not only thoughts that comes from the synapse of our mind, but they also affect the body as well. They change the energy around us, and the people connected to us.

Each Emotion You Have, Directly Affects Everyone You Know:

As most of us are all aware of, we are all energy that is inner-connected to one another. What I felt the other night, all of these emotions; I could clearly see how they were affecting everyone I’ve ever known at the same time. Let me say that again, every emotion you experience in this day and that day, is also directly affecting every single person you’ve ever come into contact with; directly, or indirectly in your life.

That one realization is SO profound, the implications of the meaning is very daunting when you think about it. Every time you’re sad, someone you know is also sad for you, they also feel your sadness. Now in our time of evolution, we as humans are only starting to understand that sometimes we can sense how another person is feeling. It’s like a bell in our gut that does off that something is wrong with that person. This gut feeling isn’t an accident. It is showing us, that our connections are so strong; we are affecting everyone we know on a daily basis.

When all those emotions ran through me like a highway full of cars, I saw and sensed every person I know, have ever known, and when I did, I realized they too were feeling the same thing I was. My heart so was heavy, I couldn’t contain the love I felt. I tried to get up, my body was glued still, my hands so heavy, I couldn’t lift them from my keyboard. My head drooped down towards the floor; nothing could stop me from experiencing that moment. My eyes began tearing up, a flow of tears of such intense release was happening without me being able to do a single thing about it. Please understand that I am not a crier by nature. Crying is probably the last thing I would ever admit to anyone in public, but here I am writing about it, because it’s not my right to hold that back from this profound teaching.

Finally after what felt like an eternity, I was able to lift myself up to go to the bathroom, where once again, I couldn’t contain any of the emotions I was feeling. I had to prop myself up against the wall, holding onto a ledge to prevent myself from collapsing. I quickly came back and sat back down on my couch and once again. And once again, all the emotions ran through me like the sea pounding its waves on the shore one after another, over and over again.

This is when I thought to myself, I need to better understand what is truly happening, this moment was given to me for a reason, and If I didn’t use all my training with meditation and connecting with the universe, that it would have been a loss for all of us. This is where the story really get’s interesting.

Building my Archetype Foundation – My Meditative State:

While this experience was going on, I knew that if I was to understand this moment fully, I was going to have to use all my training combined, which ultimately meant with all the strength I could muster, I had to build my meditative archetype foundation. For those of you who don’t what an archetype foundation means, let me explain it a little.

Building your archetype foundation in a meditative state is a concept which was talked about and further explained from the late Carl Jung. Mr. Jung was a man who came up with the concept of the Jungian archetypes – Jung revised and broadened the concept of archetypes even further, conceiving of them as psycho-physical patterns existing in the universe, given specific expression by human consciousness and culture.

I know this might all seem a little too advanced for you, so let me explain this concept a little further in layman’s terms. We all have the ability to connect our spirit to a higher consciousness; we accomplish this by forming the pillars of knowledge of the universe. For me, when I meditate, I envision seven crystal pillars of knowledge. Each pillar is accompanied by an individual in my life that represents one stage of wisdom. Below I’ve outline the 7 pillars.

Archetype Foundation – 7 Pillars of Wisdom: 

(In no particular order)

1 – Seer in Time: Clairvoyant
2 – Poet: Truth Seeker
3 – Believer: Friend
4 – Protector: Parents
5 – Conduit: Children
6 – Guide: Spirit Guides
7 – Wisdom: Teacher/Master

With these 7 pillars, I am able to connect to my higher being, my vibration is increased by 10 fold instantaneously, and I can see the whole world as it is, all at once. This happens all in one thought during my meditative state. Forming this foundation takes a lot of skill, practice and understanding of you. While building your foundation, you must envision massive colorful energy beams that come from; the sun, moon, trees, water, and earth.  All of these beams are directly connect to your chakras, each one providing the energy needed to connect to each of the 7 pillars within your foundation. You must combine all that energy and send it out to each person on a pillar for the connection to be complete. Once this energy connection is accomplished, your meditative state is now deeper than ever thought possible. This crucial step was extremely important to understand my experience, since it held the key as to what happened next.

Millions of People – The Understanding of that Moment:

While still going through this massive rush of emotions, connecting to everyone I know, and while meditating to understand the implications of this wisdom, something happened that I was not expecting.

In a flash, my meditative archetype foundation showed me millions of faces all around the world, they saw me for who I was and what was happening. These individuals had also been searching for different truths in their life. They were ready to receive this knowledge. In one moment, millions of people worldwide suddenly felt every emotion I had experienced at all once. I saw them on their hands and knees also sensing and going through the exact thing I was going through, like I triggered this for them all at once.

It is one thing to have a moment that connects to you everyone you’ve ever known in one moment, and it’s entirely different to connect to millions of people you have never met in your life. But was strange about this moment, not a single person felt unfamiliar, like I had known them all my life. Have your ever met someone that you feel so connected, there’s a sense of warmth and truth about that person? Like you’ve known that person somehow, even though you just met them? I’m sure we’ve all met someone like that. These people are inner connected to our life, they are in essence a part of us, connected to our journey, and a stage of wisdom within that is to come.

Emotions Carry a Memory Imprint with them:

When I connected to these millions of familiar faces, I realized that we have many more of these “people” we meet, that feel we’ve known them all of our lives than we can even imagine, and now I know exactly why we do know them!!!

Remember previously when I said, each of our emotions we experience are also sensed by those who have known us? That whenever we feel; loneliness, sadness, hurt, love, being annoyed, etc… All of these emotions are instantaneously shared with people you know. Now we’re about to go a little further, these emotions also carry your memory imprints of how that emotion came to be.

So for example, when you have a moment of sadness, there’s an emotional imprint on that sadness of knowledge on how you experienced that sadness. This memory imprint into this emotion has now been passed along to the people you know. So in essence your experience, the wisdom of that experience is shared with those whom you know. Here’s where it gets very interesting, not only do the poeople you know now share that very same experience and wisdom, they too have instantaneously shared your emotional memory imprint with the people they’ve know in lives, and so on.

You see, the knowledge of our experiences and emotions are passed on to the entire planet almost instantaneously, everyone has now understood how you felt when you experienced that emotion, what you learned from it, and sometimes, what you still need to learn from it.

This is profound, it is now being understood around the world in ways humanity has never understood in the history of its existence!

For a long time now, scientists have been telling humans how we are all connected; energy is everywhere, connecting all things together. We are now as a species about to understand that not only do all of our actions is affect everyone, but our emotional learning experience is also teaching everyone at the same time. This is how we are changing.

The Human Shift – The Change Happening:

So many of us now know that we are changing, evolving into something better than ourselves. What I just experienced, what I just taught you, should ultimately change the way you treat every relationship and emotion from now on. Your actions on a daily basis, and emotions that come from them, are taught to the entire world instantly. Every time you’ve hurt or loved someone, those emotions and the wisdom imprints have been passed on from one, to another, to another.

We must learn from this, we MUST share this knowledge now. For if we don’t teach this knowledge and share it with everyone we know, we will have learned nothing at all. This world is desperate for change. Change of course, must come from within first, only then can you teach others. I’ve changed, oh boy trust me I’ve changed.

I leave you with this. If you’ve ever hurt someone in any way, or if someone has hurt you in any way, your wisdom of that experience stays with that person. We must move on, forgive ourselves to teaching this dreadful wisdom, we must also ask for forgiveness for giving that knowledge away, for if we don’t, humanity will continue to teach negative wisdomo each generation that passes.

Peace and love;
Martin R. Lemieux

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Martin R. Lemieux