Want Your Ex Back? Stop Thinking About Them! (Psychological Warfare)
My name is Brad Browning. I’m a relationship coach specializing in breakups and divorce.
I want to quickly address a common mistake that I’ve seen a lot of my clients and subscribers make especially recently.
Simply put, most people who want to get back together with an ex-boyfriend or an ex-girlfriend spend huge amounts to time focusing on what their ex is doing or saying.
As I’m about to explain, this is usually just a massive waste of time. Now look, I completely understand that it’s natural to want to know what your ex is up to. I mean we’ve all been guilty of stalking an ex’s Facebook page and asking mutual friends for updates about whether they’re dating somebody new, et cetera.
But here’s the problem with that. Even though it’s everybody’s first instinct when they’re suffering through a tough breakup, that kind of thing is almost never a productive use of your time.
99% of the time, you’re basically just putting yourself through self-torture and not learning anything useful that might help you win him or her back.
For instance, say you hear through a mutual friend that your ex-boyfriend is going camping with a bunch of friends this weekend and you know there’s going to be several single girls there with him.
What are you going to do with that knowledge?
Are you going to show up at his campsite?
Are you going to call your ex and tell him that the girls are all losers?
I’m pretty sure you don’t need me to tell you that those are both terrible ideas.
You know what a better use of your time would be?
Organizing an even better camping trip with your own friends and then sharing the crazy stories with your ex at some point in the future.
Maybe your ex said something to you when you broke up that it’s been echoing in your head ever since.
Maybe he said something like “I don’t think we’re compatible enough” or “I just don’t have time to be in a relationship right now”.
Do you really think that’s the real reason why he or she broke up with you?
In my experience, those kinds of sayings are always either blatant lies or only partial truths.
And even if it were true, the simple reality is that your ex will get back together with you regardless of the logical reasons that they came up with to justify the break up if you rebuild their attraction for you to the point where it overpowers their rational justifications.
And that’s specifically what my system and all the strategy that I teach are designed to do.
I’m trying to keep this short so I won’t explain this all in-depth but please visit my website for more instructions on how to use simple psychology techniques to force your ex to feel attracted to you and to overpower those logical reasons for the breakup.
Most of the time what your ex is saying or doing really doesn’t matter.
So if you spend your time and energy worrying about your ex, and what they’re doing, what they’re saying, all you’re really doing is reducing how much time you have to spend on the things that actually make a difference to your chances of getting back together.
Perhaps the best analogy to explain this comes from professional athletes.
Now, you often hear athletes saying things like:
“I just need to go out there and play my game”
“I’m not worried about my opponent. I can only focus on myself.”
“I can’t control the referees so I just play within the rules and hope for the best.”
The exact same thing applies to you if you’re trying to get back together with your ex.
Focus on the things that are within your control and do your absolute best to ignore everything else. Apply the proven strategies in my Ex Factor Program. Focus on yourself and the things that you can do that will actually help your cause and the rest is going to fall into place.
If you need my personal help with your specific situation, please visit my website to learn more about working with me one-on-one.
Remember, don’t worry about the stuff that’s beyond your control, just go out there and play your game. I’ll see you guys next time.