Death. It’s something no one wants to talk about, let alone deal with. Something that will happen to all of us, but is denied up until the day it happens.
“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.” ~Nelson Mandela
Ten months ago I found myself floating on my back in an outdoor pool somewhere in California. Overhead was a clear blue sky, leaves dancing in the breeze, and …
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“Stop trying to ‘fix’ yourself; you’re not broken! You are perfectly imperfect and powerful beyond measure.” ~Steve Maraboli
The other day I had some time to kill before a meeting, so I decided to go to one of my favorite …
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Not long ago my Mom passed. Unexpectedly, 2 short weeks later, my younger brother joined her. Bereft, I was suddenly adrift, my moorings gone. How to belong in a world with mother and brother sized holes? Sleepless, I walked, and walked. Or, crashed for 8, 10, 12 hours. Grief morphed into guilt, anger, cynicism, bewilderment. Socially inept, I lay low. In my brother’s flannel shirt, I curled under Mom’s soft brown throw and convulsed with tears. Each salt trail marked a sacred path, a new road named “Goodbye.” Buy an “Intelligence is sexy” t-shirt! I moved furniture, rearranged with neurotic
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We as humans have a strong tendency to judge each other’s differences. There are all types of people in the world, but most important of all, we each carry the same stuff inside. If you’re that perfect, cast out the 1st stone and see who judges you for once.
There’s no such thing (as told in the media) as a perfect body, perfect looks, perfect mind, or perfect personality. When you think about the body, it contains; bacteria, toxins, acid in the stomach, and other nasty stuff. All of which are not considered “beautiful”. As a person who’s body has been against me since I was born, I truly understand what beauty really means.
Not matter your body type, looks, height, weight, colour, are all perfect inside. I know this because we all have the ability to love. Some love more than others, some less than you, but all with the capacity for compassion.
When you judge someone on their looks, you know what you’re really saying? You haven’t learned enough in life to realize you’re the one that might have the problem, not the person you’re judging.
“Perhaps, if you weren’t so busy regarding my shortcomings, you’d find that I do possess redeeming qualities, discreet as they may be. I notice when the sky is blue. I smile down at children. I laugh at any innocent attempt at humor. I quietly carry the burdens of others as though they were my own. And I say ‘I’m sorry’ when you don’t. I am not without fault, but I am not without goodness either.” ― Richelle E. Goodrich
Judging Someone Won’t Make Things Better:
All too many people go around hating others for what they; wear, their appearance, the way they walk, talk, colour their hair, shoes they wear, piercings, and tattoos. Their indifference towards people is so shocking, it speaks truth about them. They too are on a constant mental mission, battling their own daemons from within.
If you find yourself constantly needing to make fun of others, I dare you to ask a stranger to tell you what they think of you. Careful now, you might not like what they say, don’t get angry, this is just your own medicine coming back to bite you. I’m sure you don’t have the courage to ask someone, because deep down you’re afraid of what people might say, which makes it easier to belittle another soul as to have power over them and to ensure they don’t judge you accordingly.
I don’t get angry when people judge me, I feel sorry for them since I know in my heart, deep down they are insecure about themselves, which is why they deem it necessary to make fun of my life, who I am, but the truth is they didn’t have the right in the first place. Knowing this allows me to smile and say to them; “I’m sorry you feel so badly towards yourself, I can help you with this if you let me.”
“I would never disrespect any man, woman, chick or child out there. We’re all the same. What goes around comes around, and karma kicks us all in the butt in the end of the day.”– Angie Stone
Before You Say Anything, Be Mindful of Your Thoughts:
(Before you hate, delegate your actions!)
Bad habits can be broken, but it takes determination and the willingness to change. To be a good person takes more courage, than to be the opposite. Have the courage to stand up for people, especially those who are bullied and made fun of because of their appearance, you might just realize that from that one act of kindness, you may have made a best friend for life.
The moment you think of something to say to someone that might humiliate them, think about what you’re about to say. Think to yourself, why am I doing this? Who is this benefiting? Will my actions help or hurt this person’s life? Do I have a right to destroy this person’s feelings? If you can honestly go through with it (hating them publicly) and make fun of that person after truthfully answering those questions, you should seek professional help, or spiritual help.
Our souls are beautiful, when you act against your loving nature, something happens inside. A chemical imbalance begins to form, you’re being starts to hurt, and your mind goes to war, your heart screams for forgiveness. Denying your soul the right to be true as intended sends you down a path of hate, which in many cases can be very difficult to climb out of.
“I have to be careful because there is something destructive within me, I think, and I can have a tendency to just search for the kicks. I can’t really get too close to someone who’s too destructive, or too dark, because then I might go down the rabbit hole myself.”– Alexander Skarsgard
Are Your Friends Influencing Your Decisions?
I understand that sometimes we do things because we see our friends do the same. Hanging out with; negative, judgmental, hateful, or outspoken people can influence your thoughts more than you know. Having these people as friends changes you; it controls your actions in ways that will harm others. Haters hate, compassionate people attract compassion, lovers attract loving people, etc.
If you know deep down you don’t like who you’ve become, change the people that influence you. The mental battle within is only going to get worse, deep down, you know this to be true. Truth can set you free. Is dropping your friends easy to do? I’m not going to fluff it for you, no absolutely not, but I live by a saying that’s helped me with this process:
“Either you change with me, or you lose me to change!”– Martin R. Lemieux
When you let good feelings and compassion back in, you’ll notice the people you attract will be at the same vibration level and think as you do. You’ll also notice; food tastes better, you will smile more, you’re relationships will have deeper meaning and you will no longer have the need to make fun of others.
Forgive yourself for your actions, ask for forgiveness, move on, and be true as you were meant to be.
The key to breaking the bond between you both is to follow these steps:
HOW TO CUT THE SPIRITUAL CORD – STEP PROCESS:
I go without fear.I go without ego.My past is no longer in power.My past is no longer in control.When we move, when we think,we are moving towards ourselves.Our knowledge is there,our thoughts are all one.Our being is aware,our seeing is beyond.I do no…
We all are on a path, what that path is depends on you, you’re release of the past, your emotional blocks. That past is the key to your future, a brighter future. We’re all searching for the meaning of life; the truth of it all, is that what we all ins…
Why is it always my misfortune,
that you become my trial, my disaster?
Is it my bad luck, my trouble,
should I confess my sins before a pastor?
I’ve had some difficulty with this,
I’m a tragedy, a shock to the system.
It was no accident, a setback in life,
there’s no tribulations within my prison.
Within the time of my own; calamity,
pain, trauma, torture, I will be set free.
With this shock, a minor setback,
with this sorrow, fueling misery.
My heartbreak, suffering checked out,
my affliction, brings out the boy-scout.
My roar be heard loud and clear,
the misadventures, hardships and doubts.
Let bad luck reverse this real tragedy,
let karma cross out, this is a knock-out.
I remove my burden from those I love,
the troubles, the woe, just let it be known.
I should be upset to the blow to my jaw,
I use reversal of fortune, i’m in the zone.
This crisis started as a catastrophe,
by turning the tables, my will overcomes.
The vicissitude has lost this one mishap,
this is not my buffet, I will not be overrun.
In the hardest of times, people take flight,
bound to their pain, their rush, their escape!
Not me I said, not my will, nor my might!
I will defeat hard times with merely a scrape!
Not a bone, nor a muscle, is without trouble,
the difficulty tested, mishap faltered.
The wretchedness of my prison, bars be broken,
my minds inner strength, neither beaten or altered.
“What ill luck,” people will typically say,
“what ill luck?” I say back, what sad reality.
Their minds unaware, their stress is not unfound,
for I never waiver, it’s in my spirituality.
I say onto you, thinking this hell on earth,
be different, think different, love different.
Let the law of the universe guide your birth,
let other see you set fire in your commitment.
Let the distress of your disaster wash away,
for nothing is permanent, nothing ever dies anyway.
Peace and love;
Martin R. Lemieux
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